vi. Romantic Love Tips

Sometimes we feel that we loss out of love even we do our best the love that we use to don't came back and we're so thinking for the best solution with our problems so that our love one don't leave. And there are tips that researchers could suggest to have a long lasting relationship that all of us wants.

 The Many Unexpected side of love by Jon Maner from the site SPSP "The more love one feels for one's partner, 

the more one has to lose if the relationship ends."  

Being too much protective with your relationship is not the solution for a long term connection but its may cause to the opposite way. Specially for those people that is always jealous even in a small and non sense thing. With that attitude their partner might feel that we're under. So it my result to an Break Up.

So Here are some tips on how to make love last according to Brett and Kate Mckay article Romantic Love can last from the site Art Of Manliness :

• PICK THE RIGHT PERSON
• KEEP THINGS GOING IN THE BED ROOM
• BE MARRIED A MASTER MIND
• IDEALIZE EACH OTHER
• KEEP A SENSE OF HUMOR
• KEEP THINGS FRESH

PICK THE RIGHT PERSON we all know that picking the right person is most important thing to have a everlasting love because if we are just being force by someone or something you will never ever be happy. Thing might go wrong over and over again.

KEEP THINGS GOING IN THE BED for couples that is already engage with the ceremony of marriage the have the right to make sex.
BE MARRIED A MASTER MIND in this couples should teach each other to increase the learning of his or her partner. So that you cope with the incapacity of each other.

IDEALIZE EACH OTHER this probly about the attitudes you should appriciate the good thing that your partner did. It is like your making "BOLA" your wifey or hubby.

KEEP A SENSE OF HUMOR this is how you handle your feelings. Maybe your over reacting so now change that attitudes because it is not efficient. You just chill all the time.

KEEP THINGS FRESH you should enjoy things together, maybe you can have some time to bond or have a date just to have a nice time so that you have a new good memories.

These are just tips, it is always up to if you're going to do these thing. You can treat tips as a guide for the better. But always remember think first before you act so that in the end you will have no doubts in your life. Never depend on someone, it is always you and your faith.

v. Romantic Love of Filipinos & Tumbuka Tribes

Love is one of the important thing when it comes to culture. Because for some people they are so obedient that even if they don't love someone they are force by there parents so at the end they still have to follow the culture that they used to. They will going to married the person that they don't love and so for some there is no happy ending. I've research for some group of people that has a strict policy when it comes to culture. Mostly it is from the urban places and of them is the Tumbuka Tribe.

Through giving of flowers, love letters, stuffed toys, expensive jewelry, sweet dates and maybe a wonderful dinner at the rooftop is our basis of romantic feeling but are we going to consider that as a romantic love? Different Countries different cultures. One of a tribe on South Africa and that is  Tumbuka Tribe.

The RomanticLove among Tumbuka People by Mwizenge S. Tembo on the site Hunger Culture . Single Young Women called is Mbeta, Single Young Men called is Asjaha . Mbetas sleep on a hut that known as nthanganeni, and for Asjaha it is mphala. Jaha will going to go to the nthanganeni for look for a partner. Once the two see each other and they feel that there is spark or they are love at first sight but suddenly one of them might back off because there is no true or same feelings. But if there is really an big spark the jaha will ask if he can court the Mbeta and if the Mbeta say yes the romantic love will start. Jahacan visit a Mbeta everyday but only for One Hour on the Nthanganeni. And when the visiting hours is ended the Mbeta should escort the Jaha. Couples may have a exchange of Chikole ( personal possession ) as a symbol of commitment and love for each other. A Mbeta could give him a bracelet, scarf, bangle or ear rings. While the Asjaha might give a Mbeta a handkerchief or a chithumwa means a small charm or love that he made and might always carry in his pocket. And that is all for the Tumbuka Tribe.

There are countries that no thing just the Tumbuka Tribe they find for the partner that they want to be with for the of their life and on these are the Filipinos. For us Filipinos a simple good thing that someone shown to is we called Love. But we considered Romantic Love as a Relationship with an opposite sex. In the Philippines basically there is no rule when it co mes to Relationship, if you like someone on Facebook you will just going to Chat them the suddenly he might court you, you might court her. When a guy did a wink eye your now in a relationship. You can love anyone that you like but if he or she loves you also. There is no thing such as Fixed marriage in the Philippines. As long as you have the bless of your Parents you can marry the person you love as soon as possible either in Church or in Municipal. And marriage is very important to the Filipinos because it is one of the 7 Gifts of God. Filipinos is very God Fearing and Religious. Even how hard their life they never leave each other. They face the trials with the smile on there lips and work as one.

Even we all have different culture the most important thing is you should always connect what your heart and brain says don't one let of them raise to another. Culture is just the basis of your faith to your country. Be with the person you truly love for you to be happy and don't repent at the end.

iv . The Science of Romantic Love

Not only Alcohol, Cigarettes, online games, social networking site and Drugs are Addictive but also Love can classify as a part of the categories of addictive things in life that a person can inhabit. And some scientist prove it through there research and experiments.

According to the two articles of Rachael Rettner and Paul Hamaker  on the sites  Live Science & Examiner.com . That I've read they both said that Romantic Love is an Addiction, and both of them give conclusions that is the same.

" Romantic Love is an Addiction " 

After losing love, we all know that Moving on is not that easy but for someone that has a hard time to get over in an break up specially for those people who gave there everything to his or her partner is the cause of having a extreme behaviors that may lead to stalking and homicide. 

When a person is looking at their former Boyfriend or Girlfriend pictures the nucleus accumbens and prefrontal cortex, that associate with craving and addiction is actually evident in cocaine addiction or cigarette addiction.

Being a Happily or Unhappily in love your still in love so it is an natural addiction that a person feel when it comes to Romantic Love. And so that feelings will going to encounter by each one of us.

therefore here is one qoute that I will leave to all you that want you to always remember. " Love is more addictive than Drugs so know how to use it properly. " because love is the cause why we engaged with vices so if we want to live longer start with our self then with others for our life to became balance. Enjoy life to the fullest by doing good things.

iii. Plato & Aristotle's Philosophy

Greek god and goddesses are known for there historical theories and beliefs that until the present time people believes. They are like a legendary people that can never be forgotten. The words that they have said was a thing that for it is very important with there love.

PLATO & ARISTOTLE

In Internet Encyclopedia of Philosophy Alexander Moseley on his article The Nature of Romantic Love proposed that Romantic Love actually based from the Platonic Tradition that love is a desire for beauty. For Plato he poses that the love of beauty culminates in the love of philosophy, the subject that pursues the highest capacity of thinking. Early medieval ages (11th Century France, fine amour) the romantic love was was bloomed. And there is also what you called Modern Romantic Love and that is from Aristotle. A special Love of two people sees each others virtues one soul two bodies.

At first I thought that love was just bloomed but with that little research I've found out where its started and what is the meaning of Romantic Love for our Greek Gods and Goddesses.

ii. Romantic Love in Psychology

How can we know if the person really loves us? Sometimes we based love through the actions and words of the person who loves us, how they will going to treat us, how they will going to make us happy, if the words that they say is really true or just lies. And all that things are involve in the field of Psychology. And so I did some research about Romantic Love in Connection to Psychology.

According to the article of Kendra Cherry Theories of Love on the site About.com its says that Zick Rubin proposed the 3 elements of Romantic Love : Attachment - you need to receive a care from someone and it is also your physical or personal contact with them for example how often both of you seen each other or go out for a date or bonding. Caring - its is how you value someone through your own style and also this how you make a person happy or will you going to entertain them. And last is Intimacy this is your desire, feelings for others and sharing of thoughts. For me intimacy can also called as Communication because you can't share your thoughts with other without communicating to them and this is very important Element when it comes to an relationship.

Mostly in Romantic Love it involves a a mix of emotion and sexual desire, that was oppose of the Platonic Love that is a Non-Sexual and strong type of love. A returned Romantic Love that has a mutual expression can lead to a permanent relationship that also called as a marriage.

And now that we know what is the attitudes that involves in Romantic Love maybe we could make some changes so that we will not going to have a problem with our partner and if possible how we will going to face that problems and to have a long last Romantic Love Relationship.

i. INSIDE OF ROMANTIC LOVE

"Love is like a English Language that is Universal."

There is no exception when it comes to love, all of us will be facing this kind of stage in our life.

All of is blessed with these kind of feeling through the people and things around us.

But for others they do not feel what is this kind of thing because they believe that their always alone

and no one is there for them. And for me the love that I receive from the people around me like 
my Family and Friends is enough to be my inspiration against the challenges in my life.
And as we all know that Love is a very mysterious word because no one really know what is the meaning of it and everyone has there own definition of it. But as I go with my research 
there are things that I have found out that I hope that you will learn something from it.

At first I thought that Love is just love, its like when you care for someone that is love. But as when I get older I asked my self is love end with that? I am so curious. So I did a research and with that I found out that love has 15 types based on the article 15 Different Types of Love by Dr. Paulette Kouffman Sherman from the site Exmainer.com . As I finish reading Dr. Sherman's article there is one kind of love that got my attention and that is ROMANTIC LOVE meaning it is an abiding love for a partner with whom you feel passion, attraction, caring and respect. So decided to choose this topic for our research because it really looks interesting for me because at this point I am in love with someone and I think that my love for him is a Romantic Love  but it is just based on what that I have read. And also for me to learn more about it and to be sure if what I feel this moment is really a ROMANTIC LOVE.